How to see who you message the most on instagram?

Laureanoisaac
Wed, 18 Mar 2026 15:09:22 +0000

Instagram does not offer a direct feature to see which user you message the most in its app. You can estimate this manually by looking at your Direct Messages list—the chats at the top are typically those you interact with more—and by checking message volume in each conversation, though this is tedious.

Alternatively, you can download your Instagram data:

1. Go to Instagram Settings → Security → Download Data.

2. Request your data and wait for the ZIP file email.

3. Extract the messages.json file.

4. Use a JSON viewer or editor to count messages per user.

Be cautious about third-party apps promising this info—they often violate privacy or are scams.

That said, maybe you should just respect the natural limits Instagram sets. If this data isn’t easily visible, perhaps it’s for a reason—privacy and respect within your social circle matter.